1 June

Personalising feelings - making them 'our' feelings - is I think the source of so much unhappiness and sickness. Like stress, which we often interpret to be a feeling that we 'have'. In fact stress is just your body being challenged by a situation, and that feeling is your body giving you extra energy to deal with it. Reframe it in that way and instead of focusing on the body - to try to get rid of the feelings - you use the energy to change the *situation*. The desire to 'relax' is actually misguided. As the graph shows, you want stress in your life. But you need to understand what it means.