15 November

Manners are not just politeness. They balance obligations. I see a lot of this balance being missed with modern etiquette. Not even discussing etiquette is one reason there’s a perception that the world is going mad. “But if a friendship's interpersonal accounting gets out of whack, then friends start to wonder whether they really have a friendship, and the accounting comes to the surface to be analyzed, with one party saying things like "Why do I always end up sacrificing for you?"”